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29 Jun 2005

Must i leave of what?
I have this great opportunity of going to work in the UK for six months and if not, longer than that. My problem is that i have this boyfriend that i love more than i have ever loved before and feels like he loves me the same, which makes me fell that i dont wanna leave behind i have this fear that the minute i leave for UK it will over for us because i know what happened to most of distance relationships.

I know i would'nt do anythng as in like cheating on him but the thing is i am not too sure about him. At the age of 22 he was the first guy i ever slept with and now we've been 2gether 4 more than 2 years now, and the idea of him sleeping with someone else when i'm still on the picture scares the hell out of me cos i know that i wont be able forgive him.

What do you guys think should i juz get over it and go or what exactly.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, if you really love each other, though some distance relationships do indeed fall through, other endure much longer separations, under much worse circumstances. This sounds like an excellent opportunity for you, of the sort that might not easily turn up again ; and if you don't go you may forver wonder what good things might have happened IF you had gone.
If you feel so strongly that the relationship will end "the minute" you leave for the UK, then it's presumably not all that strong to begin with. You say he's the first guy you ever slept with, and the relationship has continued from there on --- maybe this has been an important relationship, but maybe it's not meant to be the main enduring relationship of your life. You describe it more like a habit than a passion. I'm with ...here
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