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31 Mar 2006

Must I leave or stay?
Please help. My husband is a workoholic and loves his work. Problem is he enjoys it more at work and with his collegues than to be at home with me. We have been for counselling and he knows what to do to work on our relationship yet he does not do it. Is it because he does not love me or is his addiction simply to overwhelming?
When at home he is irratable and no joy to be with anyway. It has been carrying on like this since we got married but lately it has become unbaerable. I do not want to compete with his work for his attentions anymore. It seems his collegues means more to him that me and the children. Will he ever change - perhaps for the right person? I have tried so hard over the past ten years to be the person that he wants me to be and to change so that he would like to be with me. Now I have reached the point where I don't no myself anymore. Maybe we should split up. I will lose him (the love of my live) but I know that I will eventually find myself again and be a better person and mother in the end.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Maybe he feels more competent and confident at work, and moe uncertain of himself in closer personal relationships ? He may love you as much as he is capable of loving, with a lack of skill in conveying this to you. I very much doubt that he would be different with any other wife.
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