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08 Jul 2010

My BF
I have been going out with him for almost three years, has mentioned marriage but is a bit tight up financially trying to build a home for his mom and late sisters kids (which I am ok with and willing to wait)

BF can sometimes be difficult to understand, he loves puting words in my mouth, finishing off my sentences, twisting my words and making me feel bad!
I would say to him one of his sister kids took something that belongs to me with out asking and he will twist it and say I said " he lets his sisters kids take my things and they are unruly etc"  things that I didnt say but he will say thats what I meant! I think in the 1st year he pretended to be someone he is not, I love playing, making jokes etc he used to enjoy my jokes and he loved playing with but now he is all serios and say before I make a joke I should warn him coz he might just misunderstand it. whenever we dissagree about something he will never agree to be wrong and I am always the fisrt to try and resolve the tention between us, he can sulk for days, I will beg him to improve his mood and he will say that he hates the fact that I want everything to be done my way! He knows that I am easily hurt and forgive easily and I think he abuses my forgiveness because he NEVER says sorry I am always the first to apologize just to keep the peace even though I know he is wrong. Instead of acepting my apology he will just get angrier so that I start begging and he will tell me its my fault he is like that!
I tried to commit suicide the other day, I wrote him a note which he read and laughed, I realized killing myself for him is not worth it he will not even feel any pain but my parents will so that will be unfair on them!

can couples councelling help us?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

It'll be interesting to see qwhat other readers have to say, here. He sounds mayhbe a bit too protective of his late sister's kids, but may feel it's his duty as there's nobody epse standing up for them ?
Couples counselling would surely help, so long as he agrees to take part sincerely and to give it every effort so it can work
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