Ask an expert
Question

21 Jul 2006

My husband the cheat - Att: Been there
I read the previous mails posted by BEEN THERE DONE THAT and wish I could get in contact with him... About two years ago my husband cheated on me and wanted a divorce, coz he wanted to be with the "other woman". Long story short - he came to his senses and after he caused so much pain to both our families he asked for forgiveness...

I suspected him of having another affair recently. Turns out - he was just phoning some girls... enjoying the attention and the chemistry blah blah blah - he never went on a date or anything - just phonecalls and use to see them at gym. so once again - afraid that he will lose me (his words) he ended this "friendships" with the girls.

Unfortunately, if you have been deceived before, you start to know the signs and are very very suspiceous!!! So, I once again suspected him of having an affair. Got some prove that they had to be on a date or at least be together once or twice, but can't prove it...

It is now three years after he first cheated on me and wanted to get divorced... we have a child as well and I honestly don't know what to do. Thing is: I still love him. Sometimes I hate myself for loving him, but I can't help it. I look at myself and think that people must think I am pathetic, but I honestly still love the guy and can't see how someone can just throw everything away by cheating on his / her partner.

Please BE THERE DONE THAT tell me how one could just have an affair because you can???? I'm honestly not attacking you - I just want to know!!!!
Answer 389 views
Expert
CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

,,,,,
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical examination, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.