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01 Mar 2004

my life - my nightmare
Dear Cybershrink
How does one escape from a person who is making your life a nightmare? I can’t take it anymore, but this person is dependable on me. My life is a mess and I’m to be blamed for everything that happened. I don’t know how to go on. I don’t want to.
I know I’m a nuisance. I always say I won’t post another message, but I’ve got no one else to talk to about how bad I really feel. I’ve tried counselling, but it didn’t work. Please tell me to go away. It would be for the best.
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01 Jan 0001

No, png, I won't oblige and tell you to go away as you ask --- DON'T go away. But DO go to another counselor. OK so things didn't work out excelently the last time you tried --- persist, and find someone you can get on with and work on your pile of problems, and work them through.
I'm afraid I can't recall all the details of your previous postings ( impossible to memorize them all !). So post again, but summarize the problem clearly and briefly --- WHO is this person ? WHY are they dependent on you ? WHY can't you just ask/tell them to leave ? YOu can't be blamable for everything that went wrong --- even if you had deliberately tried to mess everything up ( which you didn't ) you couldn't have managed that.
It would NOT be "for the best" for you to "go away" But have the courage to face the problems, with the assitance of a counsellor, and work them out.
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