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22 Oct 2009

My man se ma
Ek weet nie of ek op die regte forum is nie, maar ek is so vies!!!!
My man se ma was nog altyd baie ongeskik met my. Ek het naderhand geweier om na haar te gaan of om haar te bel omdat sy so mislik is. Sy het my ook beswadder met elke geleentheid. Ek het vir my man gese of hy praat met haar, of ek gaan en dit gaan nie mooi wees nie. Toe het dit darem gestop. Dit net vir agtergrond.
Nou het hy begin om my met haar te vergelyk!!! As ek in die tuin werk, (ek is baie lief vir tuinwerk) vertel hy hoe mooi is haar tuin. ens ens. Ek het gisteraand my speelgoed uit die kot gegooi daaroor, en nou beweer hy ek haat sy ma. Nee ek haat haar nie, ek hou net nie van haar nie.
Ek weet hy gaan dit weer doen, hoe hanteer ek dit? Eintlik wil ek net nie he dat hy my met haar vergelyk nie.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, at least some of our readers visit in the same sort of mood ! Your heartfelt complaint sounds remarkably like another we received this week ( look back in the messages of the Forum ).
I wonder about the significance of your husband now comparing you to his mother. How does he compare you favourably or unfavourably ? From the sound of it, you would not want to be at all like her, though from most men, any comparison to his mom is actually a copmpliment or meant as one. And apparenly, it's not that you hate his mom, but you understandably hate some of her behaviour, when she upsets or is rude to you.
Best bet would be to wait till the dust has settled after this latest quarrel, and then tell him you want him to join you in seeing a marriage counsellor to wort out this mother issue once and for all.
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