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19 Jul 2005

my sibling
Hi all , I have a sibling who is older than me , but in live it seems that I've made better choices . We are both married with children , we have standard stuff , a house and a car - avarege house avrarege car , we go on holiday once a year ..... , we had renovations done to our house (we have been living there for 4 years and had changes in mind since the day we bought the place) My is very jealous over me , making comments and getting depressed because of the (standard) stuff I've acheived in life ? I am getting fedd up because every singe time the sibling gets depressed and wants to commit suicide it is because of me? the stuff I have ,after my parents got divorced (Iwas very small) we were always together and she was very protective over me, we became very close but there was always that jealousy involved - after all life is not what material possesions you have it is about being yourself and being happy , living life to the fullest ............. is there any advise how to or what to say , because I am now getting angry and fed up with all of this !
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Its sad when anyone decides to and chooses to feel sad because someone else is happy, or has done better things with their life, instead of concentrating on improving their own feelings and their own achievements. It is NEVER your faulty if she is foolish enough to see these materialistic differences between you two as a reason for attempting suicide. But it sounds as if in this as in other things, she is not bothering to take responsibility for her own life, her own choices and her own actions, but trying to make you feel responsible for her, and invitation which ought not to be accepted. Set yourself free from the burden of her expectations, and encourage her to see a shrink to work on her own task of achieving happiness or at least satisfaction within her own life
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