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11 Aug 2008

Need a counsellor
I am amrried wid 1 child and another on the way. Ours was a worldwind romance and we planeed too soon to have kids. We didnt take the time to know each properly but here we are wid a kid and a half. My husband has turned out to be extremely needy. H needs constant reassurance that i love him and care for him, needs tangible acts of love all the time, eg. a cooked meal or prezzies Being preggies wid an energetic 11 month old does not leave me with much energy to give as much as he wants. This leads to huge argumnts which is not good for the little unborn one. I jus dnt have the strenght anymo to cope. I also fear that these fights may become physical as his anger seems to mount with every argument. I need sum coping mechanisms as I may very well walk out of this marriage prematurely. These kids need a father and I need to kno that I did my best to work it out. It has been a stressful year all round but surely support is a 2 way thing. Can u recomend a good counsellor that charges med aid rates. Am near to parklane clinic/brenthurst clinic and olive dale is around the corner from home. My emotions are in tatters and I dnt want to dtress the little ones any mo than I have. I am trying to think as clearly as possible wat with the changes going on in our lives. Outside of the neediness, hes loving/caring/loyal, etc but I dont want to find out the hard way that he' s capable of harming me or my kids. many thanks
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

So you have 2 1/2, nearly 3 kids, actually. We cannot, for many excellent reasons, ecommend specific counsellors. Generally, for this sort of family problem, call FAMSA< a national organization, that could suggest a number of marriage / family counsellors in your area, and they can be reasonable in price. Sounds like you're wise to seek counselling at this stage
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