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17 Jul 2008

Need a spine
I don' t value myself, and it shows. And so people at work think they can treat me as they wish. I need to learn to stop being so overly polite, to be much less accomodating and to be more confident. I' ve been so naive - thinking mostly the best of people.

How do I make the switch in my mind? The switch from goody-goody to tough cookie? I need balance here. Will CBS help? Is there something i can start doing in the meantime? Any good " bitching it up"  books I can read?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

If you were able to make this "switch" in your mind, you would surely already have done so. COunselling, especially of the CBT form, is excellent for moving from super-subservient to assertive ( not aggressive ) and with a suitable enhancement of self-esteem. Bitching it up isn't helpful ( don't get too esteemed up about it !) --- look rather for assrtion and self-esteem in book content
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