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20 Dec 2004

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I've been going out for 4 months with a girl that I really love.We have been friends for two years.From the first time we went out together,I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.But I could not trust her 100%,I've tried though,but I think It's 1 because of my previous serious relationships & 2 because I know well her past (she told me that she was cheating on her ex boyfriend...& has explained to me why)

I broke up once with her over an arguement. I thought If we are gonna fight like that for the rest of our life,we might not be happy.She forgave me & I promissed not to ever break up with her again.

But last week-end we fought again & I thought (from what she was saying) that maybe she had enough,wanted to break up with me but couldn't tell me.I thought then breaking up with her now would hurt us less.So I did It again.

She came to see & we spoke about It. I told her why I did It.We even made love again.But the following day when I went to see her,she told me that she wasn't happy at all & that she felt like took away something from her.Also that she trusted me will all her heart & that now she feels insecure.She's also saying that I might do It again one day.

I honestly don't know what to do anymore.How do I win her trust back??Have I lost her forever?Will she ever love me the way she did?I've messed It up,but I still love her & do trust her now with my life.Please,help me...




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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Patrice, Do check out the archives of this forum, as we've dscussed these issue so many tmes before, and you may well find the prior discussions useful, too.
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