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06 Aug 2008

Needy girlfriend - for readers&#39  opinions
I have a question you guys. Am I a needy nag or is he just not into me? Here is why I am wondering:

I am in a long distance relationship (CT - JHB). We see each other maybe once in 2 months and I am the one who has to do the travelling. He doesn' t call unless I call. He says he knocks off work late and does not like calling at night. We haven' t spoken for a week and he won' t call until I do. He doesn' t sms either. Even if I send him a simple " good morning"  or " good night"  sms I get nothing back.

He doesn' t work on Mondays, so that' s when I call him so as not to dusturb him at work but sometimes he drops the call without answering. I have spoken to him about it, very calmly, and he just says he is trying and he doesn' t want to fight.

The distance is so frustrating - no kisses no hugs no sex and now no talking....

I get the sense that he is not into me but I am also wondering if I am not over reacting or being too needy. I hate to be clingy but I do need some attention - and it' s embarassing to hang on to someone who is not into me. I am so confused.

What do you think: am I clingy or reasonable.

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Let's look at it in some other ways --- what about all this convinces you that he IS into you ? ANd, if you stopped trying so hard, would there actually be any relationship left ?
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