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24 Jul 2006

News of my daughter
I have been with Monique the entire weekend. It was VERY difficult to see her like that, some times it felt like I can just stand up and walk away, but I couldn’t I couldn’t leave my child.

Diagnoses: She have been traumatise by the fact that she was sexually abused and physically. Of course we know now that her boyfriend abused her physically, we are not sure who sexually abused my child. The blood she vomited was from internal bleeding as she was hit in the stomach.

We as parents are at the top of the list as possible ‘suspects’ but I don’t care, I know it was not me nor hubby. They may suspect us as much as they like. What we know is what makes the difference!

She did nothing but stare at the roof most of the times. The doc placed a mirror in her hand. She just held it, never lifted it up to look at herself. I talked to her like I always did. She never once looked at me. She didn’t sleep as well. She gets tube feeding as she has lost a great big deal of weight. She can not walk by herself.

I myself would love to get an hour or two’s rest, but I need to keep myself busy.

She is this fine petite 48kg girl. Not anorexic thin, petite. Why would anyone hurt her?

I have lost a child once in my life, I am NOT prepared to loose one again!

Thanx for allowing me to blow off some steam here! You are all great inspiration to me.


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01 Jan 0001

Thanks for the follow-up, Riana. So sorry to hear confirmation that your daughter has been abused, which is what I suspected ; but of course she's far safer now that this is recognized. It's upsetting for you, but natural, that mother and father and other family members would be amongst those suspected --- because obviously most people are abused by someone they know and who has easy access to them. If it is confirmed that the boy-friend actually assaulted her, in due course, he can be charged with assault, and she could also get a court order forbidding him to come anywhere near her ever again.
It may be that somehow she expected both you and your hubby to protect her against this boy, or whoever else may have abused her, and be scared to tust you again, for fear that she won't be protected again.
I hope her treatment proves successful.
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