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14 Aug 2007

No Longer Miserable!!!!
Hello Everyone

(Do you remeber this forum)

Lately i have been feeling so lonely and i dont see any point in living.

I feel so num most of the time. My boyfriend cheated on me in 2005, but i feel this is getting me. I was alright last year he apologiesed and i forgave him, but lately i feel horrible and i cant stand him. All the things are coming back to me and i now realise that i still feel hurt and disapointed.

I fight with him most of the time, but he doesnt seem to understand where the anger comes from. I actually regret my decision of forgiving him.

No he wants to settle down and marry me, but i cant i really despise him, the thing is, i cant talk about it with him because he does not want to touch the subject.

Do you think i am being paranoid?

Please help
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Well, I would like to inform you that I have taken a BIGGER step, I sat him down and explained what my feelings are. It almost did not work out because he started threatening me and telling me how much low and confused i am, since no woman cant resist him.

I went and got a protection order and I am telling you, I have never been so happy.

I cry somtimes and wonder why did i waste so much time.

I know everything is still fresh, but i am taking it step by step. I think I must let myself rest and withdraw myself from the relationship filed for a while and try to enjoy myself.

I dont hate men, but guys, i really need a break from you.

Thank you for all Great advises.

Pali
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I remember how I reacted on reading the first part of your message --- Why have you insisted on making this one guy so immensely powerful in your life ? You can be a strong and attractive woman with or without him, and if he treats you badly or without respect, then it should be without him. And if he refuses to sit down an discuss issues that matter so much for you, he cannot be considered a suitable partner or mate.
So hearty congratulations on movin on and getting that protection order. What a pathetic dweeb he is to believe that women can't resist him ! Well, at last he met a woman who CAN resist him ! However, don't waste any more time by crying over the time you have wasted ! Withdraw for a time, rest, recuperate, and then continue to enjoy your life more, and free
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