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08 Mar 2004

Nursery school nightmare

My husband and I recently took my daughter out of her nursery school after she came home the one day and they hadn't given her a single bottle the whole day. We also noticed that she was always hungry when she came home in the afternoon. She's 17 months old and my husband and I both work, so we don't have much of a choice but to put her in a creche. A woman and her daughter take care of the 26 children enrolled at the creche, which they run from their home. I took my daughter to the GP for a check up after I saw that she had terrible nappy rash. The GP referred us to the Teddy Bear Clinic, where luckily it was found that it really was just severe nappy rash, all the way up her vagina. The Teddy Bear Clinic undertook to inspect their licence, as they said it was impossible that only two people could care for 26 children.

The problem is that my child has regressed because of whatever it is that went on in the 3 weeks she attended the creche. She had started walking, but now she won't even try. She sobs her heart out when we put her to sleep in her cot and she wakes up all hours of the night screaming. She won't let me comfort her and will only go to my husband. She has temper tantrums and she just isn't the same child anymore. I don't know what to do. My husband and I are at our wits end and our relationship is strained. If we get 2 hours sleep a night, we're lucky. We are emotionally and physically exhausted and our child just won't sleep. It's as if she's terrified of being left alone when she's sleeping. We've even tried putting her in our bed, but that also doesn't help. Please give me some advice, I'm desperate.

Thank you.
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01 Jan 0001

Dear MH,
So sorry to hear about your tribulations --- it certainly sounds as if there's something wrong at that creche. Maybe they don't realize that with 2 people and so many kids, they're bound to provide sub-standard care. You will need to be patient. Your daughter probably has many reasons for feeling angry and disturbed right now, and hasn't the ability to talk about it. Lucia's suggestions sound about right.
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