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14 Dec 2005

OH SHI..............
Of late my wife has horrible disgusting thaughts about me. She thinks I may be cheating on her or am considering having an afair. She thinks I am having sexual feeling toward he teenage sister. She thinks I resent her in some way. She thinks that I think she is lazy.

I has become so bad that I have thaught about seeking comfort elsewhere. I love my family so much I can't fathum doing any of the above to them. It makes me so angry when she says these things to me. Every single minute I spend with her is an emotional rollercoaster that lasts for eternity as she is happy one minute,than agry, then somber.

We've been together 14yrs & in that time she has tied to kill herself twice & I know from family experience 1nce suicidle always suicidle.I've tried speaking to her but it just seems to make thins worse. I can't afford to send her for therapy & divorce is out of the question as I know I will lose my children who I will kill for. & you can't relly on family for help.

I have looked up BIPOLAR disorder & I think that is it. But it is impossible to talk to her about any kind of sickness or even our relationship. I am at my wits end.A thaught came into my head the other day that made me sick physically, & it's been in the depth of my mind ever since ( family murder ).

As a christian its a BIG UNFORGIVABLE SIN, & I will never attempt it. SO WHY IS IT IN MY HEAD !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

C9omfort sort from anyone else ( other than a counsellor ) won't being any comfort and will only make things still worse. See a counsellor, and see if you can persuade her to join in marriage counselling. It sounds as though she really does need a proper assessment and treatment, and it is tragic that this can be very obvious to everyone who care about her, and invisible to her.
And as Delene's example reminds us, it is possible to make plans that don't need large amounts of money.
Also, you are wrong about divorce--- many men have indeed gained custody, and it has become even easier to achieve more recently. And your wife's instability would count heavily against her in such a decision, which the court has to make in terms of th best interests of the child.
Bipolar disorder is chemically generated, and not ever caused by any specific event.
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