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02 Apr 2006

on breaking up
apologies for such a seemingly stupid topic, but this can have serious emotional consequences!

my boyfriend and i have been together almost a year. this is his longest relationship by about 5months and he's amazing. almost everything i've ever wanted in a guy.
the problem is i just feel too young (21)/ not ready for this commitment and this specific relationship just doesn't feel right. he loves me, but i feel less and less loving towards him.

i want to leave him without breaking his confidence. help me please!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

We more often hear this story from the other way round, the woman ready to commit, the man no. But it's fair and reasonable to recognize when you are not ready in yourself to undertake a long-lasting committment to a partner, and fair to tell them so, kindly, rather than to mislead them. Why not start by just talking with him about the relationship itself, about how excellent you find him to be, but how unready you feel for a long-term, open-ended elationship, and asking gently how hw feels about it, what his views are for the future.
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