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29 Feb 2004

One reason to live?
Hi,

Is there someone out there that can give me one reason why I must carry on.
I' 30 years old and have no one in my life.

I am at a very dark place and have constant thoughts on suicide. I just wish I was dead,
I know all people are on earth for a reason and in my 30 years I have still not figured out my reason.
I don't know how to explain the feelings I am experiencing.
I feel wortless, unloved and that no one will give a damn when I'm dead.
I can't see any light in this dark tunnel I'm in.
I know I can't carry on like this and I am starting to think on ways to end it all.
Please???
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear C,
I agree with the excellent comments made so far by our readers. You are certainly not worthless, even if you haven't yet learend to recognize your worth. You are certainly not unloved, though the primary problem may be that you haven't yet learned to love yourself, nor to recognize that you are loveable and love-worthy.
As MadJake says so well, meaning and purpose in life are a process, not a single destination or simple answer.
You sound as if you probably are Depressed, and should see a shrink for advice on treatment options, including Cognitive CBT which could help greatly. and as several of our wise readers have said, however grim your situation seems to you, there are others far worse off --- and though that's absolutely no reason for you to feel cheerful, it is a reason for you to consider getting involved in helping others, to improve the situation of others who are unfortunate and need help, which will help you to reach and engage with others, and to improve your own sate. Do take the trouble to invest more thoroughly both in therapy and in working with others on projects that are worthwhile and fun --- you deserve it --- and you're worth it.
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