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10 Aug 2007

Parent Maintenance
Hi CS,

Firstly, let me say a heartfelt thank you for the continued support you offer your posters.

Im not sure if you remember my story but i gotta tell you doc, im livid at the mo. I am now expected to pay mintenance to my aunt for my mom. Remember, the one who was more interesting in the boyfriends and who accused me of leading her ex- boyfriend on when he molested me at 13. And remember she was fired for stealing.

So yesterday i get a call from my aunt to advise that my moms expense is x for this and y for that. I dont mind doc but apart of me wants to say, why the heck do i have to cough up anything! Before i became who i am none of them thought anything of me, in fact, i was treating pretty bloody badly by the lot. Now, dont forget we love you.........maaan unk that! Whats teh going parent maintenance rate anyway?

CS......off the topic a bit here and hoping you'll humour me, are you a leo sign?

Thanks for listening doc.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Thanks for your kind comments, Shae --- it helps one to keep going ! I fully understand why you feel angry. Its one thing to choose to offer some support for your mother ( who if I recall it could, if she were more responsible and more energetic do at least something more to help herself ), but its natural to feel outraged and ill-used when they expect you to cough up and show no signs of appreciating your contributions. I wonder how mom and aunt would fel if you drew up a bill for your therapy expenses and pain and suffering caused by her neglect of you when you were a child being neglected ? It might help them to get this in perspective !
No, I'm not a leo, though occasionally leonine.
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