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27 Jan 2004

Pls help-cant take it anymore!!!!
Hi there.

I am 20 yrs old and have been dating this guy for a year.He is amazing and makes me extremely happy.The problem is my mom says she hates him all the time and says she wishes he`d just disappear out of our lives forever.She said she`s even considered doing something to achieve this!
I really love this man and will do anything to keep us together but i just cant take the constant bitching from my mother and the constant fights!!
She says she refuses to accept him even if we do get married which we`ve been discussing alot lately.
All i feel like doing is packing up and just leaving home and go far away where i can never see her again.
She`s constantly picking to the extent where im beginning to hate her.
Pls advise me as what im supposed to do,because i cnt take the strain anymore and feel like im going crazy.
Over the festive season we got into a huge fight bout it and she ended up in hospital due to an overdose.
Im desperate and dont know what to do.his man is my life and i love him.
Pls advice!!

Thank You in advance.
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Beth,
There must be some reason for her to dislike him so much, even if it's not a logical or sensible one. After all, there's no plans for him to marry her. Maybe you need to explore ways to move out of the home and be independent, if you want to live your own life with less interference. You don't mention your Dad ? Is he not around ? Or if he is, what does he think about this --- at least he, or maybe other members of your family wo can also talk to your mom, could discover what's lighting the fire behind her dislike of your bf.
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