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11 Mar 2004

Pole For Single parents.
Hi all.
Like to know from parents that are separated or never married with children, when it came to the name and especially the surname of the baby or child, who’s did they use. Was the father or the mother’s used? Was it a big problem deciding whom’s surname had to be used and how did you solve it if it was. I would like my son to have mine but since mom and I wont be staying together she wants the baby to have hers. I am trying to be fare, so if it is in the best interest for him I will give in to the issue. BUT only if well validated why?

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01 Jan 0001

Dear Enigma,
best to discuss the pro's and con's between you, to make the decision best for the child, rather than choosing the option most satisfying to you or the mom. For instance, it can be awkward when a kid goes to school, if he has a different surname to his mother who the kids meet.
Maybe he can have her surname, but your name or surname as his middle name ? And as Nda reminds us, there can be practical difficulties we don't think of at the time.
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