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05 Aug 2008

Porn - NOT NORMAL
How can this be seen as NORMAL?????
NO, as any other addiction in live, it is dangerous! I’ m a Christian, and God says you my not envy (begeer). These men that look at porn, envy those woman! That it why they get an erection. Worst, it what they think! Then they masturbate, and the body learns that it is GOOD…  Porn –  masturbate –  makes body feel good…  Tomorrow he needs MORE Porn…  etc etc.
That been said, its even worse if the guy is in a relationship! In any healthy sexual relationship there is only place for two people, and bringing this into the bedroom, is like bringing another person in! IT IS NOT NORMAL! Next it would be normal to go to strip clubs, for “ he only looked”  “ its how a man is made” …  Lets take this to the extreme…  Would I be charged with a crime if I planed, anticipated, laughed and enjoyed another person being killed…  but I “ only looked”  how the person was shot… ???

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

You're making a fundamental mistake. Normal is a statistical term for what happens to occur often enough to be typical and usual within a community or group. It shoul;d not be used as a term of evaluation or to signify that something is desirable or praise-worthy.
Also, you may, of course, base your views on an issue like porn, on your particvular religious views --- but those views will not govern the views or behaviours of most people in society. Your religion leads you to reject and dislike porn --- therefor you should avoid it. But you can't insist that others must share your paricular beliefs or act according to them.
I don't quite see the issue of a man looking at porn becoming aroused because he "envies" the woman pictured in it --- any more than someone who starts to feel hungry when looking at a menu or recipe book is envying the food. Its a very different issue of appetite and stimulation.
Anyhow, though other readers may choose to comment on your opinion, I will not accept that this or similar threads become religious debates --- this is not a forum on religion
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