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25 Nov 2005

Possibly falling for a married female
This has been bothering me for a few days now. This new girl started working in my section a while ago. Well we began chatting and once I got to know her better I realized what a rare decent person she is. She's sweet, intelligent, caring and very beautiful. I'm going through a break-up process with my girlfriend at the moment. Well I know now that this girl has been considering a divorce and I really don't know what to do. Nothing has happened and I don't think anything will.
My problem is the more I get to know and see her, the more I wonder why her husband is so stupid not to appreciate her more and support her more in the person she wants to be. I think I might be falling for her because she really is the kind of girl you don't get around every corner. She has a lot of problems in her marriage at the moment and she confided in me and I also confided in her regarding my problems. She really wants to make a success of her life, but her husband just don't want her to be independant, be herself.

Do you think the reason this thing is bothering me so much is because I am actually falling for her. Like I said she's very beautiful, on the inside and definately on the outside. I can really feel comfortable talking to her. I must admit that I do care for her. I don't want to interfere in her marriage and I wont. It's just tearing me apart because I would do ANYTHING to have someone like her as my wife/ girlfriend, and here's this guy not appreciating or supporting her because he has a high paying job. Please, have any of you guys been in a similar situation and what am I to do????????????????????????????????????????????????????
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Nothing should happen --- you need to get a lot further from your breakup, and she from her divorce, if she even goes through with it --- and remember the built-in risks of office romances. Don't get into discussions with her about her marriage problems, and don't imagine yourself the knight in shining armour sent to save her.
I fully agree with ~Wings~, Delene, Pete and FIO ( Nice to hear from you again, FIO !).
Amd Frusty, what's this about looking for a fish in the creme brulee ?
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