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01 Jul 2005

Posted this yesterday on the sexologist site - please I need advice
This is a real question and please I need some advice. My bf told me that he visited a glory hole where a guy gave him a bj to the point of orgasm prior to meeting me. The story turned me on and a while back he showed me a photo on his cellphone that he took of a guy who pushed his penis through a hole in a public toilet. We love to talk and tell our fantasies to each other. The other night he told me that the second guy in the photo also gave him a bj. I got concerned about diseases etc and now he says he only told me the story to turn me on and it never happened. What worries me is that yesterday I found his underpants and he has washed the front part, I confronted him and he denies that this behaviour is carrying on. I insisted on a aids test and a lie detecter test but he is now turning the whole story around to the point where I look totally paranoid and jealous. He is very masculine and I don't think he is gay but bi maybe. Should I believe him or not? Please help!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

As Kinsey and others have shown, a surprisingly high proportion of the male population ( and more than you might expect of the female population ) who are thought of, and think of themselves as straight, have one or several gay / same-sex experiences during their life. This sort of behaviour is well-recognized, but of course does carry risks of STD. After you indicated, when he first told you about this, that the idea turned you on, it's hardly surprising that he told you more about such activities, true or otherwise.
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