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03 Jul 2010

Preggies and scared to tell BF
I am 30yrs old and just found out that im preggies. I am working and able to take care of the baby. the problem is me and BF have been going out for 7months and he made it clear that he is not ready for a child, since his other child is only 2 from the previous relationship. i didnt trick him into it, he was aware that im not on any contraceptives, and we regularly used condoms. in april we went for hiv test, which were negative. from there onwards the condom fell away, even when i reminded him. i feel lost in that he might not be thrilled as i am, so im scared to tell him.
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01 Jan 0001

Is this a planned pregnancy ( at least from your own point of view ) ? Or is it entirely unexpected and accieental. If he was aware you were only using condoms and no other contraceptives, he should surely have been aware this was a real possibility. And when he stopped using condoms altogether, he MUST have known that pregnancy wan't only possible but PROBABLE. So it can't be entirely surprising to him, and its something for which he must fully share responsibility.
You needn't be scared of him being "less than thrilled" - that bneed not be a crisis. Tell him calmly, at a suitable calm time, and withou being too emotional about i yourself, as most men find it hard to deal with a woman being emotional.
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