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01 Apr 2006

Pregnant and husband not interested
i am almost due to have my baby and my husband keeps on wanting to have lots of guests around everynight, he never wants to spend some alone time with me and it can get rather fustrating. His friends normally leave at about 1am and i don't now how much of this i can take. He also loves running me down in front of his friends and he does not seem to actually understand that it hurts my feelings and that i also can not stay up so late anymore. Tried talking to him, but he does not seem to hear. Help me please!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

OK, first the obvious question --- have you actually sat down calmly and discussed this with him ? And what, then, exactly does he say ? Its nonsense keeping a woman in advanced pregnancy up so late. And running you don in front of his friends is unacceptable. I wonder what would he do if next time the friends come round, you excuse yourself within minutes of greeting them, and say : "So sorry, but you'll understand that this far into my pregnancy, I need my rest, so I'll have to go off to bed --- have a nice evening --- it was really good to see you !" and go off to bed ?
Maybe he's having the sort of ambivalence and problems some husbands do get late in pregnancy --- you're busy doing and being something very important and he feels left out of it, maybe unsure of how good a father he'll be. And mayne, understandably, he's concerned that having sex with you this late in pregnancy might not be a good idea --- and this way he guarantees that both of you eventually get to bed too tired for there to be any possibility of sex ?
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