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03 Apr 2006

Problem with feelings for another man
Dear CS
I have married for 4 years now. and recently discoved that I have strong feelings for another man. we have been friens now for the past 5years. He doesnt know how I feel about him but then maybe he does. the vibes between us now and what it use to be is undescribable. I also recently noticed that we dont touch and we do keep a distance between uscuase we both know I am married. we use to be close friends and we use to talk bout anthing and everything, know it is not the same we actually feel almost uncomfortable when we are alone or even with other people. I dont want to loose him as a friend though. I would like to know what should I do? should I tell him of all these emotions goining inside of me for him or should I just carry on like i have? I dont know what to do.
My husabnd and I use to have a great relationship, that has changed a lot over the past few moths we have problems with trust(financailly) he didnt want me to have friends or go out by myself not even to the shopping by myself. He doesnt know about these feelings I have for the other man nd I dont want him to know.
we have gone for counceling we attended marraige courses, but for now we are fine. I just dont know how to deal with what is going on insde of my head. Please help!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I think you'd best see a good local counsellor to work on sorting our your feelings, desires, and concerns. What would you gain by telling him how you feel about him ? You know what you should not do --- so don't do it. Maybe rather you and your husband need to get involved in marriage counselling ? Call FAMSA. Personal, direct counselling helps ; I have severe doubts as to whether the over-priced but superficial "courses" ever do help
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