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03 Mar 2004

Raising grand son
I watched a program on TV last night about 2 woman having a twins by artificial insemination . All the advise given was that when a child grows up without a father , that the child will suffer some defect in later life. My daughter had a baby 2 and a halve years ago , she lives with us the father is out of teh picture and I will not let him near the child, it took him 2 years to make contact with my daughter after he was borne. My husband and I are like parents to the boy, but his mother is also always around and he know that he is loved. What should he be told about his father
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

granny,
If anyone in that program said that any child growing up without a father will suffer ANY defect later in life, then they were an ignorant fool, irresponsible and lacking knowledge of the facts. Children do thrive when they live among loving people ( or even with one loving person ) ; and do much better with a single loving mom, than in an unhappy marriage. The setup you describe at your home should be excellent for child-rearing.
At 2 1/2 the child is probably too young to be asking aout Dad, or if he does, to need much of an explanation. But as the boy gets old enough to ask, it's best to be fank and honest about what happened, and to reveal that his biological father has sadly shown very little interest in him or his mother, but that fortnately, he is greatly loved by all of you. Don't make his father larger than life, or smaller than life.
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