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07 Dec 2004

RE: about boyfriend getting on his feet
Hi CS, and others.

I spoke to boyfriend this weekend about getting his "gat in rat" I tried to do it as straightforward as possible, without personally attacking him or trying to hurt him intentionally. Unfortunately I think I did hurt him because he told me so a while after the "talk".
Anyway..

He seemed to understand where I was coming from. I basically gave him an ultimatum. I told him that I was forced to because of his actions (or rather, in-activity,) He said he will start looking for a job, and he understands that I can't support him forever, and he also said he was sorry for putting me in this position. I only hope that his actions will backup his words, will just have to wait and see if that is the case. I really made it clear that he has to bring his end of the bargain, or no go.

thanks for the support.

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds like you did what was needed, rather well. There's no way to say what had to be said in a way that will make the other person feel overjoyed and happier than when you started --- but there are so many ways to say it in a demeaning and debasing way, that you managed really well.
And now he gets a chance to show what he's really made of.
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