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06 Jul 2005

RE: Would you forgive &or forget? I am hurting, she must be hurting more
Thanks to:
CS, SR, Babe and all of those that responded to the above subject.

There is something that CS has aluded to, I quote
"And she should recognize, when you suggest this, that cheaters never want to enter counselling."

- she has a tendency to undermine therapy;
- she pulls out of therapy session claiming ineffectiveness;
- she deosnt want a third person to resolve our problems fo us

She is the one who fears that I am cheating and that cheaters behave like this or that. I do not know. never cheated. so would not know. And I think I will do my best to persuade her for therapy and to keep the qoutation from Maddonna in mind.

I am happy to say that I landed safely in JHB last night, she was home, cold and we spoke about things. She was just jealousy. But refuses to come with to therapy. I have booked for this Friday.

Thank you all.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Monezi, congratulations, you are making a good start. She may not immediately accept the idea of therapy, though if she understands that it will be a chance for her to learn far more about you, as well as herself, and to have her grievances listened to and explored --- and that if she doesn't go, she'll be left wondering what you might be saying about her --- she might become more interested in attending !
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