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22 Jan 2004

Re:Dont want to leave me alone
Me and this guy have been dating for 5 years.In this 5 years he actually never had time for me.It was always playing soccer and after the games he will go and party with friends
and when i want to drop him he want to spend all the time that he has with me.Whe are apart for a few months.I do have alot of friends and they always come and pick me up to go out but when he finds out i am going out he comes there just before i leave and he will sit there even if my friends come he wont leave then i must cancell whatever i have planned.Please help me he dont want to leave me alone he always interfere in my life......
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Kew,
I agree with J, stop this pattern promptly. When you have made other plans --- keep them. Tell him you have made them and are going out, and ask him to please leave so you can lock up properly. He sounds like the sort of guy who never appreciates what he has, until he doesn't have it --- and when he gets it, he doesn't know what to do with it. That promise to his late father isn't binding, and was never binding on you. Like soul, I think it sounds as if you're still making excuses for his lousy behaviour, though whether out of fondness for him ( I haven't yet heard what's worth being fond of ) or out of fondness for his dad, isn't clear.
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