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18 Feb 2004

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HI COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO FELL PREGNANT AND I HAD AN ABORTION A WEEK LATER AFTER I FOUND OUT!!I DID IT NOT BECAUSE I WANTED TO BUT BECAUSE I NEEDED TO STUDY THE FOLLOWING YEAR AND MY PARENTS ARE TOTALLY AGAINST UNMARRIED MOMS!AND IT WAS NOT MY INTENTION TO GET MARRIED ANY TIME SOON!AT THIS MOMENT I TOTALLY REGRET IT AND BY MERE MENTION OF IT I JUST WANT TO BREAK DOWN AND CRY!!IT SEEMS AS IF I CANT DEAL WITH IT ANY MORE AND ITS DRIVING ME INSANE!!!AND I DONT THINK I CAN TAKE IT ANYMORE!!I FEEL AS IF I CANT TALK TO MY BOYFRIEND BECAUSE I FEEL THAT HE WOULDNT UNDERSTAND WHAT IM GOING THROUGH!!AND THE FACT THAT HE ALREADY HAS A CHILD COMPLICATES EVERYTHING FURTHER!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear confused,
You do need to see a counsellor, to help you to work through these conflicting feelings. An abortion is always sad, but after it has been done one's aim needs to be a focus on the future, preventing such situations from arising again, and planning a happier and more fruitful life. If you're a student, there ought to be an availablity of confidntial counselling on campus, which you should avail yourself of. Also, check with your GP, i may be that you have developed a depression, which isn't uncommon after a regretted abortion.
And maybe your bf wouldn't be as unable to understand and help as you are assuming. Why not try and see what he can do to support and help you ?
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