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15 Nov 2004

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My husband always reject me when it comes to sex. is there a problem with me or him. saturday he had something to drink and he were rubbing himself by my back and came. he was not even in me. do you think he got some gay problem or is this normal.last night when i lay on him he told me that he is watching tv.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I don't think he's gay, but I do think he has a sexual problem which, for both of your sakes, he needs to discuss with a counsellor, so he can get over it. You describe this as if it was a relatively recent change. It sounds as if he has a problem of what we call Premature Ejaculation, when a man comes too soon. And maybe he feels shy and ashamed of this, and avoids sex so as not to feel embarrassed. But seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist can solve that problem really well and rapidly. he also sounds uninformed and unskilled sexually, and, if he bothers, can soon learn to perform in ways that satisfy both of you a great deal better. it's not easy to start talking about it, but that's the route towards finding the solution, which is available.
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