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15 Nov 2004

Relationship advice : Best friends ?
Please help... i have broken up with my fiance for over a month ago ... its taken some time but I'm starting to handle it .. the problem is she wants to still be "best friends " .. i dont think this will work as I still have feelings for her ... What should I do ? should I remain friends or should I just cut all ties ?

this is a something she cant understand ... I will never move on if we are still hanging out together ...
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

The French have a saying, that a door should ne either open or shut ; and I'm similarly sceptical about a relationship left ajar. Explain it gently to her that hanging out together will be likely to make it all the more painful for both of you. And as Mona says, it's especially so in the early months of a break-up. Later, maybe, you can be friends again, but only after you have each achieved independence and become able to reconnect as independent friends.
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