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18 Nov 2004

relationships
Hi
I am doing something that could develop into a problem, unless it already is. I have not been in a relationship for a good year and half now. I am a very sociable guy, good looking and have a happy nature.
The problem is that when i go out and meet women at clubs and bars etc, I tend to get very bored and uninterested with the women, and somehow devise a plan to leave them or make an ass of myself.
Usually on wkends I rent an escort from the internet, i find them very interesting to chat to and enjoy taking them on dates and generally having intercourse afterwards. A few have developed into friendships. Firstly I agree this is an unhealthy lifestyle as it is not real world. I realise that there is some underlying cause of this as it is not natural behaviour. I do practise safe sex and go for regular std tests and aids tests. My friends do not know taht I do this. Please could someone recommend something productive.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Maybe it's just me, but I think that the most interesting people don't usually go to bars and clubs, and the noise levels usual; to such places make it hard to find out if anyoen actually IS interesting. I agree that the escort route isn't a healthy lifestyle ( though having sex with people you don't know well, met at bars and clubs, is unlikely to be any safer ). I gather that many intelligent escorts say that many customers actually want pleasant conversation, sometimes instead of sex --- pity we don't have better non-sexual ways of meeting people for conversation, which so many folks want.
Personal counselling really could help here. As others say, there could be many factors at play here --- fear of committment, of rejection, whatever, related to prior experiences ( a principle widely recognized for hundreds of years before Ron Hubbard borrowed the old concept and dressed it up as "engrams !)
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