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04 Apr 2006

relationships....profound?...
This is so true..................Unbelievable.............

Do not fall in love every time you fall in bed.
Learn to detach emotionally. Sex does not equal commitment.
Do not revolve your entire life around him/her. Addiction is bad for
your health. Do not cling, act needy or demand. Doormats are for your
feet, not your heart. It's OK to say NO.

Stop talking so much. NEVER reveal everything. Do not grill them or
their friends for information. Master the art of LISTENING. Treat
him/her as you would your best friend.

Friendship creates long term love and comes before sex. FORGET about
fixing your partner. IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN. Your choice of partner is
a reflection of who you are and who you are not.
Enjoy the moment first. Live in the present. Don't worry about the
ex's or start naming your future children. NEVER read their journal
or go through their paperwork. If you have no trust, you have no
relationship.

Allow space and freedom between you. DO NOT always be available.
Calling frequently is a turn off and signals insecurity, neediness
and control. Open your eyes to lies and cheating, OR close them, justify
the bad behaviour, and live with the consequences.

Little or no eye contact? Start walking. They won't even notice you
are gone. Anyone preoccupied with their physical appearance and
dress, usually have very little or nothing to offer from within. Look
beyond the physical.

Never compromise your values. If you OVER give, you will lose your
lover and his respect. DO NOT LOSE YOUR IDENTITY. December/May
relationships are great. However, seasons change and the May lover
will sooner or later, hear the call of Spring. If someone REALLY
wants to be with you, they will be.

Sleeping with a married man or woman? Don't count on them divorcing
anytime soon. State your personal rules in the very beginning or
expect them to be broken. If they ask to be just friends, be just
that and look elsewhere for a love partner. If someone wants to really be
with you, they will. If they keep giving reasons for not calling or
say they are extremely busy, GET THE HINT, leave them alone.
Marriage before thirty is an inevitable celebration for divorce. Don't ever
give up your friends for him/her. If your partner one day leaves
you, be sure you have friends, money, a career and a life of your own
which you never gave up. If you do not, who do you have to blame but
yourself.

"Hopeless romantics are only hopeless in the eyes of those who don't
believe in romance" The things you want , you just can't have but
the things you need are right in front of you !!!


Keep it real!!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

The challenge, as slr says, is not just to hear these things, but to embrace them and put them into practice
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