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21 Dec 2004

Right timing, still the wrong guy - Life, love & everything else!
Was in a relationship with a guy I really loved.We broke up 4 months ago.Theg uy had trust issues because of previous girlfriends' actions & I was on the receiving end of emotional abuse.I have a perfect guy who was always there 4 me, always begging me to make up with my boyfriend 'cause I loved him.He is helping me get over him. Problem is: Perfect guy wants 2 marry me but I dont love him.I realise now I warmed up to him on the rebound.He's honest, kind & generous but is not the 1 4 me.I've always tried 2 reciprocate his feelings,but he's just not the 1.I want him 2 find some1 he loves who will love him back.I cannot pretend,but he's hopeful I will learn 2 love him in time.Both just turned 30.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

If you don't love him, it wouldn't be fair to marry him, would it ? Maybe, though, some relationship counselling for the pair of yopu, could help to clarify this, and help him to feel free to find the lover he needs, while remaining the good friend you need ?
Liza's right about the timing issues.
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