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26 Jul 2005

Sadness does not go away
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I was married for 21 years, two kids - then about 6 years ago my husband left me for a younger (and sexier) woman. They are still together, are wealthy and seemingly very happy. I, on the other hand, had to give up my home, family and lifestyle that i was used to. I am still on my own and havent had anyone since my divorce. Even now, 6 yrs later I can't seem to stop brooding about what happened, I keep on thinking back to my years when I still had a family and I long so much for those times. It still hurts (6yrs later!!!) to think that it was so easy for my ex to walk away from me and everything we had built up from nothing. For me it is impossible, I still mourn everything I have lost. It is getting me down, by now surely time should have started to heal the wound? I feel unloved, unwanted, and cannot understand that someone who lied, cheated and betrayed as my ex did can walk away with all the rewards in life while I ended up with nothing and no-one. I sometimes want to end my life, but I still have a child to take care of. I cannot deal with this anymore - it is so long ago and still it hurts..why?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

See a counsellor, so you can unpack your emotional baggage, and stop typing yourself down to a past that is well and truly over. This mourning will never bring back what you lost, but it has helped to ensure that you lost more, through absorbing your time and emotions.
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