Ask an expert
Question

07 Jul 2005

Scared+NotSure
I sued my ex-boyfriend for maintenance(in January) and I was fired up and wanted to do it. Summons were served and we were informed to go to the enquiry on July 12. He called me just to let me know the amount I asked for is way too high for an 18-mth old (R2500), which I told him my calculations for the kid come to R6000pm. We didn't argue or anything but eversince that call I'm so nervous and scared of going through this whole thing. It's stressing me like you would never believe. I dream about it(that is if I manage to sleep at all). I've got this fear he's just gonna go there humiliate and outsmart me and all. Please help me coz where I'm standing I'm ready to call this whole thing off. Problem: I need the money.Thanks to the arrival of the baby I'm in +-R10000 in the RED with the banks - all of them, and it keeps getting worse and worse...
This thing is really getting to me - I thought I was ready for it but now I've got a phobia.
Answer 452 views
Expert
CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

The process is supposed to try to be fair. R 6000 a month to provide for a kid of 18 months does sound rather steep. Your debt may or may not be relevant --- if you can show that it is things like obstetric and hospital costs, they may be considered, if it is debt based on your own expenditure, probably not. Seek legal advice, many firms offer at least a free first 30 minutes ; and a university law clinic might help, too. Make sure you sort out all the paperwork to show that the debt is all baby-related expenses. It sounds like some of the extra expense could come from feeding the nanny, rather than the infant/
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical examination, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.