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14 Dec 2004

Second time around - can it work out?
Dear CS,

My ex husband and I have been divorced for 7 years. He lived with another woman for 5 years and I lived with another man for 3 years. At the moment we are both living alone. Now my ex husband wants us to be together again! I am confused and don't know what to do. We both admit we have made mistakes in the past and I believe we have learnt from these mistakes. He says we should forgive and forget and that we should try again.....

Can it work again for us? We were happily married for 15 years, then there were business related problems, the company went under and so did our marriage! I now have a stable job and income, and he is retired since April.

I would very much like to have him back in my life, but I am not sure if I am being realistic about this. Is this just loneliness talking on both our sides?!

Thank you
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01 Jan 0001

Doesn't so much of this depend on WHY you two divorced / parted in the first place ? It's hard to be sure of his motives now, whether love, loneliness, or financial. Maybe try working together in some relationship counselling first, to check out whether the earlier problems are truly over ?
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