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29 Nov 2004

Seeing the ex tonight need strengh please help
Hi All,

I broke up with My GF of 2 years 2 weeks ago. I love her very much but we seem to argue too much which makes me think we are incompatible, It has been hard leaving her and tonight she asked me if she could bring her PC around for me to fix. I agreed reluctantlly as It will be difficult for me to refuse her. She has been playing emotional black mail with me telling me if I don't come back to her she will be intimate with another man which obviouslly hurts like hell, Allthough she has often used these tactics in the past to get me back with her.

I will try and not sleep with her tonight but could someone please give me some advice.

I am very nervous. I suppose the only reason I would take her back is because I don;t want to have to deal with the pain of her becoming a stripper or being involved with some one else.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

qwerty, I don't believe that any relationship in which one partner uses emotional blackmail on the other, is successful in the mong0term, or even medium-term. Surely make certain that you don't give in to the blackmail, and don't sleep with her tonight. Tell her you can't fix the computer at all, or at least that you can't fix it with the distracton of anyone else there --- ten let her drop it off and tell her you'll call and tell her when it's fixed so she can pick it up. Then Fix the computer and help her to load it back into her car and say goodbye. If she might really become a stripper or sleep with other men just to spite you, she's a woman very well worthwhile being without ! The pain of parting is nothing compared to the pain she is likely to continue to inflict on your throughout any relationship you allow such a person to have with you.
A door needs to be open or shut. Either break up and keep it broken up ( probably the best option ) or if you really can't resist her, consider re-uniting only after the pair of you have worked for some time in relationship-counselling to see if the problems can be worked out.
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