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06 Aug 2007

self confidence
i'm 42 years old and have a very low self esteem. I don't think anything of myself and feel I can't survive without my hubby. I grew up in a house where you never could spek your mind and basicly had to ask permission to laugh out loud. I never learnt to communicate. I'm working for my husband and feel that if he should leave or die that I cannot survive without him. He says that I'm putting a lot of stress on him and I'm sure I do, but isn't it normal to want to feel wanted and that you mean something to him. I feel that he would not care if I stay or go. I'm overweight and that also brings me down a lot seeing that I know the skinnier the better for him. I;m trying my best to loose weight but use food as a comfort. I know your answer is going to be that we must see a marriage councilar, but there is no money for that. Also what to do with our rebbellios teenager daughter (15), she does not want to go with us anymore but we also feel guilty to leave her at home when we go out. We still want to go on 4 x 4 outtings and she does not. We plan to go away in September for a week I know she does not want to go with. Any suggestions please
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

CBT ( Cognitive-Behaviopur Therapy ) is currently the best method within which to work to gain good self-esteem and confidence. YOu apparently had years of upbringing teaching you NOT to communicate and teaching you that you were worthless, and understandably you absorbed those unfortunate lessons. CBT can help you to unlearn those, and instead, to adopt positive and helpful views of yourself. Yoiu can become comfortably independent and better able to enjoy the relationship and your work.
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