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08 Mar 2004

Severe Depression
My wife has always been a very strong willed person and has been through a lot in her life. Recently, she has slumped into a severe depression and I am unsure of how to help her. She has been to the local GP, and been given tranquilisers and has withdrawn totally into herself. Although I know I am to blame for some of it I feel like she is taking this depression thing out on me totally. I want to help her and see her through this but do not know how to. Please help, as I do not want her to go over the edge.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear D,
Carol's right. Check on what she's actually taking, as some GP's don't know enough about recognizing and treating Depression. She should NOT be taking tranquillizers ( the valiums, ativans, etc of this world ) which are sedating and depressing ; but should be taking a modern antidepressant, maybe of the Prozac / Cilift family, or one of the others. In 3-4 weeks such medications can make a really large difference in her mood.If possible, she should also see a counsellor to work on the negative attitudes that are part of Depression.
Your understanding, and general support and encouragement will be very valuable to her. Part of Depression, too, is often a high degree of irritability, which may get directed towards the nearest target, probably yourself, but remember that this will be the Depression speaking, and not an accurate reflection of her true and enduring feelings for you.
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