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30 Jul 2008

sexual games between kids
my brother in law is engaged to this woman, who has 2 kids from previous marriage. the youngest is 8 years old, and last week they came to visit. i have a 8 y old and a 4 y old both girls. this other woman also has girls. they were playing in the bedroom, and later that night my 4 y old told me that the other 8 y old girl played with her and showed me where. her private parts were swollen and red, and itchy. i told the mother about it, but she ijust said that it is not true. what am i supposed to do? is this behaviour normal in a 8y old girl? and is it normal for her to to that to a 4 y old? this really stresses me so please help me to see what i have to do.
thank you so much!
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01 Jan 0001

Usually kids learn, even if not expressly taught, that genitals are not to be shown to other people. You will want to talk about this with both of your children in an age-appropriate way, and maybe be cautious about when these other kids visit, not to leave them alone.
One would also be concerned about the apparent fact that this other girl's genitals were swollen, red and itchy, which is not exactly normal. She might possibly have an innocent urinary tract infection, or this could be eidence of her having been abused by someone, perhaps even at school --- and this could also have encouraged her to display herself rather than to be shy about it. Maybe a calm and cautious word to your brother-in-law, to suggest that his fiancee might want to check on this possibility
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