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03 Apr 2007

Shock of death!!!!
Friend I know lost his wife and son in a accident, which traumatised me more than I thought it would. I knew his son well and was very angry that he died. The wife I knew just in passing but I knew that she was permanently on diet and was always so strict on what they ate ect. Prim and propper. What bothers me most about her death is that she looked so well after herself and what happened she died in a accident. It makes me feel as if why are we bothering with diets and looking good if we could die tommorrow. Am I overreacting or still in the phase of adjusting to the deaths.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Yes, death is never easy to handle, even when the people were not especially close to you. And sudden, unexpected ones can be harder. I understand the feeling that "If we might die tiomorrow, why bother about healthy diets, etc, today ?" But the twin question is ---"Suppose I DON'T die tomorow, and live much longer than maybe I expect --- it'll then be very well worth having looked after myself well earlier on. " Its a sort of investment, and insurance. As George Burns the comedian said when he reached his 80's "If I'd known I would live this long, I'd have taken much better cae of myself:.
I think youre still reacting to these sudden sad deaths, and will work through this . UIf you get stuck in the process, counselling would help, but give yourself more time.
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