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03 Apr 2006

Should I be honest and tell him?
Hi All

I met a guy a two months ago. He is kind loving, supportive, makes me smile and never let me go to bed without saying good night.
We have not big issues in our new found friendship. The thing is, should I tell him that I was diagnosed with Schizo affective Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder two years ago and that I am on medication since then?
He only knows me as this calm and sweet person.
What if I have a relapse? He will then see who I really am.

I don't want to lose his friendship but how do I go about to tell him that there is much more of me that he has to know of.

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01 Jan 0001

Thanks, Jess, for raising an important general, as well as specific, point, which is widely ignored. I dont think it's limited to psych conditions. If you were becoming close to someone in a relationship, wouldn't it be fair to tell them that you had diabetes, or epilepsy ? Also, think of the positions being reversed --- would you want to know this, if it was HIS problem ? And would it change the way you feel about him ?
I believe in honesty within a relationship, which would imply tactful telling ; if he loves you or at least cares about you, it shouldn't make a significant difference to how he feels about you.
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