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12 Oct 2009

Should I care what they think...
To cut a very long story short. My partner and I have had a massive fall out over some issues that have been made fairly public, partly because we live in a small town but also because there has been so much gossip about what has happened that everyone knows.

What happened doesnt really pertain to my question as we have decided to put the past behind us and move forward with our lives. We have forgiven each other for all that was done and said.

Problem is ... I come from a very close and broad group of friends who have stood by me, protected and defended me. Obviously they think getting back togethre with him is a bad idea and they dont want to see me get hurt again. Ive spent the last 4 months in an upside down world, they have picked me time and time again.

How do I follow my heart and give my relationship a fair try, but still let my friends know that Im grateful for their help and dont want to lose them?
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cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sorry, folks, but as I have to rush to Durban for an emergency, this forum was supposed to have been closed from Noon Monday, and has only been left open by mistake. So it will be extremely difficult for me to respond to all questions before Friday.
WOuld some form of couples counselling be available to you, where you live ? It's understandable that your friends don't want you to be hurt again, the real question is how to reduce the risk of that happening. And why not simply explain to them how you appreciate their concern, and why you want to give it one more whirl ?
Good and thoughtful responses from other readers, too
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