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25 Mar 2003

should I stay on or let go?
I have recently been intimate with a guy I totaly adore. Problem is I dont think he feels the same and he doesnt let his feelings be known to me.I know he has issues with his past relationships but I think I am entitled to some honesty.I dont know how to bring this up.Also I dont wanna lose him.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Schnapps,
Maybe other readers have useful advice on this point, based on their own experiences. I find sometimes it can be risky to rush towards "adoring" someone early in a relationship. Surely, if he adored you, he would want to tell you. Whatever the reason --- maybe issues remaining from his previous relationships --- it sounds as if he doesn't like talking about his feelings ( many men don't ) and may be much more cautious about leting himself rush into possibly loving relationships.
How can you bring it up with him ? Well, not in an argument. But at a quiet, comfortable, peaceful time ( presuming the two of you have some of those ? ) simply tell him about how you feel, and that, though you recognize that he has concerns arising from past experiences and that he probably doesn't like talking about emotional issues, you really would like to know more about how he feels about you.
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