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07 Mar 2004

should i tell him ?
I met the most amazing man a couple of weeks ago. And eventhough we haven't known eachother that long it feels as if we've known eachother all our lives and this relationship definetely has the potential to last for a long time.

We've both only been in one serious relationship before, but the difference is that I lost my virginity to my previous boyfriend. We haven't talked about this yet, but I'm pretty sure that he's still a virgin.

How do I approach this subject? Should I tell him now in the beginning of our relationship, or later when this topic arises? I know he will be heartbroken, but I won't be able to lie and tell him that I'm a virgin. How do I tell him?

Thanx

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear carol,
Again, I'm sure that our legendary band of wise folks will give you useful responses once they're back at work on Monday ! I'm sure you're right not to plan to lie. I'm not at all sure that he will be "heartbroken" when he learns the truth -- disappointed, maybe, but surely most of all his reaction and the relevance of this revelation to you both, will depend more on the quality of your relationship itself. It would seem wise to tell him when the issue arises, rather than to blurt it out suddenly at a time when it is not yet relevant between you.
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