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09 Mar 2004

Should of b proud of myself?
Hi Cybershrink

I am 22 years old and I am still a virgin. I am not prudish or anything, but I haven't found that special guy to share it with yet(not waiting for marriage for it to happen). I don't believe that I should just do for the stake of it. My friends have done it(some have regret doing it at a young age) but I know more knowledge of sex than they do-I suppose not the experience.

Nowadays young people just do it because of peer pressure,etc and I chose to do it differently. I know theres nothing wrong with me and people told me I am very pretty but I don't let that get to head cos I c myself as a person. I do know theres no right or wrong but I am just wondering is this normal? Should I be ashamed of myself because I am still a virgin at my age? Won't guys find this weird?

I would appreciate if you reply. Thanks
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Gini,
Hearty congratulations on being so sensible about this topic ! Only really weird and pathetic guys would find it weird that a girl or guy chose to remain a virgin, for any reason, or to any age. It seems to odd to me, that in what is announced to be an age of sexual liberation, there is in fact one form of sexual activity which is routinely criticized and lacks respect --- virginity. If anything goes, and we're not supposed to look down on people who insist on all sorts of odd sexual behaviours, even those involving swinging from the chandelier wih a fish in both hands --- why should someone not be equally free to remain vrgin for as long as they please ?
he answr, probably, is that so many succumbed to peer pressure, and rushed into losing their virginity, to discover it wasn't such a great idea, that they want everyone else to join them in their immaturity and lack of wisdom, and find an actual virgin reminds them uncomfotably that they had a choice, and may not have chosen the best option.
As you see here, the number of people who wished they'd waited longer, far exceds the number of those who wishd they'd changed status earlier.
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