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20 Jul 2005

SISTER IN LAW
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I have a sister and mother-in law from hell. I've known my husband for more than 15 years and married only for 5 years. In all this time, every two years we have an incidence with these two ladies and every time, I put my pride in my pocket and patch things up. The beginning of last year, I was once again told my fortune by these two ladies -we were blamed for something we've never done or even said. Anyway, time passed and like always, I phoned my mother-in law and we resolved things.My sister in-law was treated like my own sister. I come from a big and close family and when we had get togethers she would always be invited, she and her daughter would come along on weekends and even have Christmas eve dinner with my family and they'd go home with a whole bunch of presents. Since this incidence last year, she avoids myself and my husband and when their family gets together she doesn't pitch or leaves before we come. My father passed aways about two weeks ago and she never even phoned my mother or my sisters who had nothing to do with her.....and that really hurt me.
Anyway, the least I see of her the better. But today is her birthday and my husband sends me an e-mail asking me if he should include my name when sending her a birthday wish? I was mad as hell and told him his fortune....I am so hurt that he can even consider asking me this, after everything that's happened. I wish they could all disappear.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Surely your husband ought to be far more involved in sorting this out, and in persuading her relatives to be more civilized and less easy to take offense and to bear grudges ? Discuss this with him, peaceably, as he probably also finds this difficult and troubling. Keep to the high ground, and let HER remain the one who is clumsy and makes mistakes.
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